Sign from above !

This is again about the impending move. Since the news was broken to me at work, I tended to second-guess my decision to move; the primary reason, in our minds, was to ensure that it would do good and be better for DS. Or else, I do not see a big need to move jobs, although the recognition is greater. It was always on my mind - and wryly thought like Jim Carrey in "Bruce Almighty" would look for some signs from above to see if this is the right thing for us to do.

Then cut to my travel last week; on the flight, where I tend not to see many movies, decided to see "Evan's Almighty" - which, post-facto, seemed a loose sequel to the Bruce Almighty. The plot for the movie is the God appears and commands Evan Baxter (a congressman ?) to build an ark, in the lines of Noah's - the plot is pretty thin though. So he starts building it, but the whole world and the family thinks he has turned crazy; In one of the scene the wife and the kids are sitting in a restaurant and there is a TV on playing the incident of Evan's ark - the people around make fun of Evan, while the wife squirms in her seat. Then God appears in front of the wife (as a waiter) and talks to her. When the wife tells him, all she wants is the family to be together, God asks her - if you pray for something, does God give it to you as is or provides an opportunity to do so - for eg, if you pray for courage, does God give you courage or provides you an opportunity to show courage ? Or when you want peace, does He give you peace or provide opportunity for peace"...

Hmmm... so when we were asking for "well-being" of DS, has God given us this "opportunity for the well-being" ? Perhaps, this is the sign !!!

Cop out ?

Finally, DS was told about the uproot-and-move. He somehow has a view that moving to the US is not something he wants, although we had lived there earlier. He was around 4 when we left that place. There is something about that experience that he hates. During our normal discussions, DS had said many times that he hates going to the US for some reason that is yet to be excavated from the innards... So telling him about the move was going to be challenge...

But we had to tell him sooner, which we already delayed. So when I was traveling this time, we had decided that he needs to be told; so the plan was just two days before my return from my travel, he would be told. This was the sequence

1. we will get my current boss (who is also a good friend) to visit our house and tell DS that we are being transferred (DS has this view like the teachers at schools have to be listened to, the bosses at work has to be listened to)
2. there is bound to be a bit of melt-down; handle it for a while, and then invite his friends from the neighbourhood to come home and play with him.
3. if he is continued to be disturbed, I return 2d later and take some of the brunt...

In reality, there was some melt-down, then friends coming home helped to limit it. Finally, he has agreed to the transfer for an year (2008 to 2009 :) , no month specified :) ) with some pre-conditions...

I believe that DW handled this extremely well in spite of my absence (or perhaps due to my absence) and it required extra-ordinary amount of bravery and an aptitude of the oak-tree to do so.

So its kind of ended well; but one thought still gnaws at me... Did I cop-out on this and not want to face the kind of reaction that I expected ?