The Change

DS just had a flu and came out of it - He seem to have come out of the chrysalis phase suddenly ! Wonder if this is due to the Antibiotics, but more on that later..

I (DD) had called home from work. Usually DS doesn't pickup the phone at home. This time he picked up the phone and addressed me: "Hi Red" - this is the way he usually calls me. I was very surprised to hear DS speak. I asked him if DW had asked him to talk. DS replied, that he picked the phone on his own, since his mom wasn't available. Then I ask him, but you had said "Hi Red", what if it was somebody else. DS said, "I saw you name in the phone."... And to us, this was cool - this guy not only picked the phone that he usually doesn't like, but was quite engaged in the process and regulated his response accordingly ! Cool...

Another incident: usually he goes to Gym in the morning with his mom. Few days ago, he was holding the door for DW and her friend to come out. The friend of surprised at the chivalry - his response: I was holding the door for both of you like a gentleman. Additionally, he also remembered and thanked our friend for a very good chicken curry when he met her at the gym - the curry, the friend had shared the day before. He told her that the food was very good !

To crown this all (can there be anything more ?), DS is very scared of the vacuum cleaner noise, such that we use it at home when he is not around. At DS's school, they were trying to make the kids learn to use vacuum, but DS was so scared of it. However, in a class discussion, he had set a goal for himself that he'd use the vacuum and will overcome the fear of vacuum cleaner noise. Two days after that resolution, he spilled cheese by mistake. When the teacher asked" how are we going to clean", expecting DS to say, "I will pickup". To the teacher's surprise, DS said, "I will use the vacuum to clean" and went ahead to do so. His teacher was blown away...he immediately called home to let us know. Now DS feels very proud about overcoming his fear!!!

DS seemed very focused the past two weeks. A few days ago, I tried to teach him frisbee, by breaking down into micro-steps; last weekend, when we went to a picnic with his cousin, he very diligently tried throwing the frisbee and did so successfully !

We are crossing our fingers and toes. DS seems to have gone to the next level of self-awareness and self-regulation. He understands what could offend and is building concentric circles of social behaviour - what is acceptable within home isn't acceptable with his cousins; and what is with them will not be acceptable outside of them.

Will keep you all posted.